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Making Friends with Pain

Pain is an uncomfortable unpleasant sensation that can range from mild discomfort to agony. There can be physical pain, which in comparison is more manageable, and emotional pain.

Emotional pain can be caused due to sadness, hopelessness, anger, or anxiety; something all of us are currently in. Did you know that prolonged emotional pain can manifest into physical pain? 

Too much stress can cause you pain in your neck and shoulders. 

Too much worrying can cause you pain in your head or stomach. Some get migraines due to anxiety.

However, even when we’re suffering from emotional pain we tend to use a physical approach in dealing with it because we believe it to be a physical reason. However, pain caused by depression, or anxiety has to be dealt with on an emotional level. 

Make friends with pain and you’ll never be alone ~ Christopher McDougal

He meant that when we resist pain too much, it tends to hurt us more. What we fight with, will persists some more.


When we befriend pain, we are accepting the feeling, then it won’t hurt us that much. 

Acceptance, therefore, is a powerful way you can make friends with pain. 

You can use powerful statements to accept the feeling. For example

  • I feel a knot in my stomach and I accept this feeling.

  • I have a lump in my throat and I accept this feeling.

  • It’s okay I’m friends with this feeling. 

It’s quite actually magical. The moment you accept the feeling, you’re telling your brain that it’s okay. Your pain won’t disappear but believe me, you’ll definitely start feeling better. 


There is obviously a source from where this pain came from. We tend to use blame as a way of coping with it. Of them all, the worst is blaming ourselves for it. We go through thoughts such as ‘why me?’ Or even something worse such as ‘I deserve this!’ 

Such detrimental thoughts increase pain multifold. Learning to forgive yourself or anyone who you believe has caused you the pain will not just help you cope with it, but also make you emotionally stronger.

The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong ~ Mahatma Gandhi.